Anonymous asked: Okay um I'm asking different blogs about this and I would want to know is it bad or good if, u hug ur crush bye, then he makes a handshake for just you and him but he still hugs you bye after? I'm confused if he's trying to put me in the friend zone or if he still has feelings for me :/ what do u think it means in ur pov?

You stated “if he still has feelings for you me.” Does that mean you know he has feelings for you or did you guys just break up? You’re calling him your crush, I’m guessing you guys never went out. I don’t know the relationship between you guys so its hard to know. Back in high school, I had a lot of girl (space) friends. I have made many crazy handshakes with a bunch of them and we do it everytime we see each other in the hallway thinking we the coolest kids on the block. I would occasionally hug them afterwards too. I mean, thats just me with my friends. If thats different for you, I could see why you would think there is something going on. I can’t say for sure though. If you really want to know, why don’t you make the first move. Just because you’re a girl doesnt mean that you cant make the first move. If you want to know something, go for it. Good luck.

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Anonymous asked: Do you have any helpful tips/advice of how I can break my boyfriend's addiction to video game?..

Let the man play his game! LOL. 

I don’t know. I mean, I’m kind of addicted to my game as well but not to the point where I would play it all day and night. If thats the case, then the best way to get his attention is to play with him. Whatever the game. If it’s black ops, play with him. League of Legends? Make an account and break some towers. I mean, it’s not hard. If you’re not into gaming then I can’t help you there. You can’t force him out of playing a game because you want some attention. Don’t be inconsiderate. If he isn’t giving you any attention at all, then maybe there isn’t any connection between you two. A guy would or should give his girl some attention if he wants a relationship, just saying. But I don’t know your relationship. HAHA.

Good luck though.

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Anonymous asked: when youre in a talking stage with someone. do you think you should still stay faithful to them?

I think you should. I mean if you were talking to someone, do you want that person to go and talk to another person the same way they are talking to you? I don’t think so. I mean, it would be nice to keep your options open but if you’re going to “talk” to someone, you shouldn’t be “talking” to someone else. Thats my opinion. Unless both of you are open minded about it, then its okay I guess.

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Anonymous asked: I hooked up with this guy i liked over the summer. He's my ex-best friend's cousin. That's how we met. I thought we had something when we first kissed but after, we just stopped talking slowly to the point where we just stopped completely. About 2 weeks ago (when i still had a best friend), i told her that i missed her cousin and i still kinda like him. A couple days after, he finally texted me. Should i be talking to him? I DO still have feelings for him but i feel as if i shouldn't.

I don’t think there is any harm talking to the guy. Stay friends. I don’t think you guys should move things fast. Don’t fucking sleep with the guy LOL. If you really like him, I say move it slow. Let him taking you out, hang out and such, and see where it goes from there. Liking someone and having the someone talking to you doesn’t mean you should speed up to the point where you guys are already dating. Some people just have no patience and thats what ruins a relationship sometimes. My advice, be friends first and see where it goes from there. If HE, I repeat, HE, is the one moving things fast, it might be because he just wants to get some, but I can’t say thats for sure, so I think you should be careful about it. 

Good luck

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Anonymous asked: i got heartbroken about a couple months ago. i love this guy but we don't talk anymore. im trying to get over him but its really hard considering the fact that he was one of the best things to ever happen to me. i think about him everyday and it goes no where. i cry a lot cause of him. im pretty sure ill get over him if i find another guy but so far, theres no guys who catch my attention because im still focused on the one who broke my heart. what do i do? ): i still love him

If you’re still trying to get over a heart break, I don’t think it’s wise to go fishing for a new fish. You should get over that fish first. If someone happens to come along while you’re trying to heal, then thats that. Healing a broken heart is hard. Go eat yourself some chocolate. It’s very cliche but from what I’ve heard, it does help. If I were to guess, you’re young, maybe 15, 16, 17? You aren’t going to find “the one” at that age. Sure you can go out with a bunch of people but face the facts, the chances of someone finding “the one” at the age is low. I can’t expect you think that he is the one you will be with for the rest of your life. Get over it and move on. Go hang out with your friends, keep your mind off him. Go get a hobby. Volunteer for something. Do something instead of crying over him. You have to go through obstacles to find “the one” and this is just one of them. Climb over it and live your life to the fullest.

Good luck. 

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Anonymous asked: So there's this guy... we text and sometime he will reply super fast and otherr times take forever. sometimes he wont text back the whole after noon but call at 10 or 11 pm just because he wants to talk to me. If I dont answer he will call again a few minutes later... Im confused :(

Sounds like a normal friendship to me. I mean, for me sometimes I text back super fast when I’m not busy, and then I take back super slow when I’m at work or have something to do. I feel like it might lead up to something else because calling someone isn’t much of a friendship. It kind of depends on the conversation you guys are having. I personally don’t call and talk to a girl unless I like her, I hate phoning. But I’m not reading in too much on this, you shouldn’t either. Don’t get your hopes up. 

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Anonymous asked: Oh, woops.I didnt mean to make it sound like i was coming off slutty or anything. I meant I have obligations to school, finding my way in my career and developing a life outside of the relationship. I feel like he might feel a little bit resentful of my progress but if I don't work on myself then I remain jealous. Ive been trying to work on my insecurities but it makes it harder because I dont wanna feel that I'm leaving him behind. Thnks for the advice btw; ive been stressed about it lately

Tell him that. Tell him you need time for yourself. It might sound like a break up but clearly it is not. Just tell him exactly what you have said to me. If you want time for yourself to grow on your own and be independent, do it. Don’t let him stop you. Tell him he should do the same. He needs to work on his insecurities also. If you guys trust each other enough, there shouldn’t be a problem. It would be a little hard to let go a little bit, but it would be worth it in the end. 

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Anonymous asked: How can I get a guy to notice me as more than a friend? We're hanging out tomorrow && I'm nervous on how to talk to him

BE

YOUR

SELF.

If you pretend to be something you’re not just to get someone’s attention, it wouldn’t work. I mean, yes, at first it would work, but when you finally get the attention, then what? You would need to keep up with the act. Being yourself is the best you can do. By being yourself, you would find out if that person would like you for being you. If not, than you can’t do anything about it. You can’t force anybody to like you if they don’t. Just live life as it comes, and be yourself. 

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Anonymous asked: Can you ever break free from the friend zone?

Of course you can. If you can prove to the “friend” that you can be more than a friend to he/she. The reason why you’re in the friend zone is because that person thinks that they can never see themselves with you. Look at Ron Stoppable from Kim Possible. Look at Gordo from Lizzie McGuire (i think thats how you spell it). They were in the friend zone for YEARS. I just think that if you care about that someone enough, you can break out of it. 

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Anonymous asked: so my best friend & mehave been super close for 6 years, we've been like sisters. after 2 years of friendship, we admitted to having tiny crushes on each other but we figured it was just cuz we were young and stupid. so now, i've been dating a boy for 6 months and i absolutely Love him. but Saturday night , after homecoming, my best friend slept over and we got wasted and ended up making out. we laughed it off in the morning but i might have feelings for her and feel like she might too. help??/:

So what you’re trying to say is you’re going to the wild side and liking that lesbian action. That’s cool. I have never been in this type of situation so I wouldn’t know what to do. I just think that you need to really think about who you really want to be with. You can’t be with him and sneak around with your friend. And you can’t sneak around with your friend and using her as a second option. You would end up hurting one or the other. Who would make you happier? Don’t pick the better person. Pick the person that would make you a better person. 

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Anonymous asked: I just found out my mom has Ovarian Cancer... I don't know what to do anymore. I can't lose her... I just don't know how I can handle things anymore...

I’m not a doctor. I can’t help you with that. Idk. Spend time with her. Be there for her. You can’t just give up. There’s still hope. Help her fight it. I don’t know anything about Ovarian Cancer, sooo.. The best you could do is be there for her. Complaining about it won’t do much good.

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Anonymous asked: If a guy liked me, and I told him straight up that I didn't like him, and he still didn't accept that as an answer, what do I do? I told him straight up to give him less pain later on if he likes me more later. Advice please.

Nigga needs to move on. Obviously he has feelings for you. If you don’t like him he needs to know that he can’t force you to like him. He will eventrually get the hint. He probably might not like you as a friend later on because he is too stubborn to figure out the nothing between you guys are going to happen. It’s his fault. You don’t really have to do anything. Go on about with your life. You already told him you dont like him. That’s enough. 

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Anonymous asked: I've never had a best friend before. and in school I casually made a friend and we became best friends. I was always alone but now I told this kid everything I have in me. We had a really great year together and it was sad when we had to leave for summer break but I thought we would keep in touch, but we haven't. I've tried talking to him but he is too busy with league of legends or playing live to talk. & when I told him I was not going back till after Christmas he didn't care. Should I forget?

Yes forget him. He obviously never really cared for you. He would rather play league and other games than talk to you. What kind of a friend is that? There are other people you know? You can always make new friends. You’re probably shy. I mean, everyone is. Just have the confidence to try to make a new friend. But don’t trust someone that easily next time. 
Good luck. 

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Anonymous asked: If your girlfriend cheated on you and you broke up with her.. but you still love her.. how would you get over her? you have this feeling she still loves you. but shes so stupid shes with the one that she cheated on you with. fml

To be honest, if I was in this situation I would move on. There’s no point in my trying to force someone to love me if she doesn’t. Learn to move on. Do something else beside obsessing over the fact she’s not with you anymore. If you don’t let go, all you do is hurt. It’s hard to move on, but you have to. Wasting so much time trying to win her back when there actually might be someone better out there that would love you for you. So just move on. 

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Anonymous asked: So, theres this guy. he told me he liked me. and he talked to me everyday. when i woke up to when i fell asleep. he always made me feel better. he just always had my back. and i guess i fell for him. but it was too late. he fell for someone else. he fell for this girl that has a boyfriend. but i think she likes him too. i don't know what to do. he stopped talking to me. and i miss him. a lot.

Well you can’t force someone to like you. If he likes someone else all you can do is just be there for him. I mean, instead of trying to get you to notice you as someone special, just be his friend. If you guys are meant to be together, it will eventually happen. Life isn’t fair sometimes, but doesn’t mean good things won’t happen to you. You can’t sit back and just watch him fall for someone else. Be his friend. Be there for him if he needs you. He’s not talking to you, go talk to him first. You start the conversation. Become good friends and then see where it goes from there. 

Good luck.

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